And if the idea of taking a break fills you with panic, if the thought of setting things down for a few weeks or a few months calls forth the kraken of “but if I stop, I’ll never meet anyone. ” Then I invite you to take a few deep breaths and acknowledge that you’re approaching dating with a scarcity mindset. The fear of “not enough” is steering your boat, and it’s a captain that will steer you straight into the archipelago of red flags.

Scarcity mindset – the idea that there aren’t enough eligible people out there, that we have to grasp and cling and hold onto whomever we find because there won’t be another – is the bedrock of settling for bullshit. It’s how it happens. Fear is the mindkiller and the quicksand of settling.

So, if you are feeling desperately urgent, panicked, exhausted, or even just really, really tired… take a fucking break. Even if you only turn off the apps for a few days, I promise, it’ll help. That’s not how the universe works.

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